At times breakups can actually be a better idea, there are some relationships which don’t work for everyone and forcing them would be worse than terminating them.
Sometimes, its better to be just friends (and maybe have it once for the road) but sustaining that commitment doesn’t work for everyone. Here are seven signs it’s time to give up on that relationship.
1. There’s No Sexual Chemistry
I should note that this is very different than the frequency of sex in your relationship. Some couples only bone a few times every month, others can’t keep their hands off each other. Point being, you should not take stock of how much sex you’re having, but how the sex is when you do have it. If there is a total lack of interest in both parties, and you’d rather watch a Donald Trump debate than look at your boo naked after the shower, maybe the spark isn’t there and probably never will be.
2. You’re Holding Each Other Back
Sometimes people who can seem so right for us are so wrong for us because our paths are too different. In life, making a relationship work is more about the logistics than it is about the desire to rip each other’s clothes off at a moment’s notice. If your significant other has a totally different life plan laid out for themselves, it may be beneficial to ask yourself if you can see yourself bending your plan for theirs. If you both can come to a compromise, maybe it is best to just stay friends. A friend can support your new job venture and move to Japan, but for a significant other it could be a lot harder.
3. You Dread Date Nights Unless Friends Join
Are you constantly asking each other if you should invite mutual friends X, Y, Z on date night?. The key to knowing whether you would be better off as friends or not is if you both constantly are trying to pivot a date into a group hangout opportunity. Of course, even the best couples need double dates and time to hang out with other friends, but if it’s gotten to the point where you worry about being alone with each other, it’s probably time to pump the brakes.
4. Your Eyes Constantly Wander
We’re humans, so I’m not suggesting that looking at someone else means that you and your significant other are better off as friends. The reality is we’re millennials and in the back of our minds were constantly wondering if a better romantic opportunity is going to come along. However, if you’re constantly day-dreaming about other people and what it would be like to be in a relationship with them instead of your partner, maybe it’s time you stop wondering what it would be like to date other people and just find out.
5. You Don’t See A Future Together
Further than having different life paths, you can’t see beyond next week with this person. You’ve begun to take the relationship day by day, and often wonder if you’re going to be with them come Thanksgiving time. The sign of a strong relationship isn’t just having a future together, it is seeing one in your mind and striving to achieve that future together, things likemoving in together or planning trips together. A friend doesn’t have to think about the next apartment you’re going to rent, while a significant other should definitely be involved in that conversation.
6. You Play Down The Relationship
When you see your friends and they ask you how your significant other is doing, if you usually respond with “Oh, that? Yeah, it’s um, fine,” that’s a sign that something’s up. You’re try to downplay the relationship to other people because the reality is that said relationship is not going so great.
7. You Feel Trapped By Each Other
Sometimes the biggest sign that two people aren’t meant for each other is a sense of worry or unease you feel when you lay down at night. If you’re constantly wondering what would be an “easy” way out of the relationship, surprise! There is none. The reality is, if you’re thinking of walking away then you should. You should before a friendship can’t be salvaged and the two of you resent each other deeply.